Creating our own lives

I have read about it, written about it, talked about,.. The law of attraction, creating your own life. I have believed it. I have seen it, felt it, but never felt like I have consciously used it. I have seen all the negative things I have attracted, summoned, drawn into my own life. I had let the negativity rule in my life for so long, I didn't know how to end that circle. So I started by letting go of the past. The bitterness. The hatred. The hurt and the pain. That was step one! And then I started working on living in the now! That was step two, realizing there is no tomorrow. Just like there is no yesterday. There is always just here and now. No, you know what,.. my first step was realizing there is no one out there who can save me, make me happy, make my life right, make me feel good about myself, but ME! Only I can do those things. Yes, someone did help me realize this, so she helped me, saved me, in a way. She opened the door, she opened my eyes, she pointed out the truths about me and my life. But the rest of the work I had to do myself. Only I can allow myself to let go. Nothing anyone else says can do that for me. There is no magical words or tricks out there that can save you, you hold that key yourself. Always. You just have to be reminded. And then there was the continueing of letting go, of every negative thing I encountered every day, and hold on and focus on the positive things. That was another step. The next after that was trusting the meaning with everything that has ever happened, everything that is happening. Trust the universe. Let go of the control. Stop being a victim, and start seing the lessons. I started to get to know myself. For a period I even fell in love with myself, what I am, and life itself. Being grateful for everything that makes me ME. And every good thing in my life. And every lesson from my past. One of the hardest things I had to work on was this, being grateful. Remember to be thankful, for everything. Show appreciation. It was hard for me to feel that, honestly and believe it. I had forgotten how to. I wanted to, but changing my attitude from always expecting the worst and being dissapointed to being grateful for, well, everything was really hard. But I worked on it! Every day! Reminding myself, forcing myself, faking it... And I started believing it, I felt it, I wanted to show gratitude, I say thank you every day and mean it! And I am working on opening up, my heart, my light, just me. I opened up to light and love and the universe, and even the Earth. Last one was difficult. Because I never came down, I always wanted to go back. I didn't like Earth. Sometimes I still don't, but I appreciate my time, the experiences and my lessons here, and I am grateful for all of it. Okay, so I am still working on opening up. The love towards the Earth and life and beauty is getting easier. The light, I still work on letting both in and out. It is there, I just have trouble with seing it in myself, that I have a bright and pure source inside myself. Though I have felt it, and even felt it radiate towards the world. They say that seing your own light is more difficult than seing your own darkness, that it even frighten us. I feel that. Well, I don't fear the light, just the thought it might not be there, or not as bright and strong, I guess. But I'm working on it ;-) Opening up to people, well,.. I have still quite some way to go on that one... ;-P But again, work in progress ;-) And I am definetly more open to guidance and intuition if you like! I am open, listening to my heart and to my helpers. And boy, do I get a lot of messages these days ;-) I am working on opening even more, to listen more intently. This is important though; I am working on it. Not trying to work on it, but working on it! There's a huge difference! Just the intention, the responsibility, the meaning of it; working on it versus trying... Doing versus trying... Do you understand the difference?! Because it is an important one! I never use the word try or trying when I talk about real stuff anymore. I can try a new sweater, a new taste, new shoes or what ever. But when there is something I want to, or need to change, I don't just try, I do! I work on it, and I do it... It is all about taking responsibility for my own life, everything in it. I am always responsible for how I react and feel about any given situation. I choose how to relate to different situations, how to respond, how to interact, how to feel, how to act. It is all on me. I can't control people or situations, but I can control my reaction and my respons, even my emotions. I always have a choice. And in that lays responsibility. My responsibility. I am responsible for my own happiness, my own inner life and outer. If I am unhappy with a situation I can eighter choose to leave the situation, to change my attitude towards the situation or just accept it. I am responsible for making the best out of every situation, for me. See the challenges, the lessons, the benefits, the good. Again, working on that every day..

I guess my point is, I am working on being better every day. Better than I was yesterday. I am working on myself, all these things above. And even if it started as something forced or even fake at first (some of it), trying to convince myself of something I didn't really believe or think I could do, it is working. I am believing! I am doing! I am living it! I still have to keep working on all of it, every day, maybe for the rest of my life, but it doesn't all feel like work anymore. It becomes a part of me, who I am and what I do, how I feel and react towards life. And then something magical starts to happen! I am not just changing my thoughts and beliefs, I am changing my whole life. I am creating my own life!!! I am creating my own reality! And it even causes ripples, changing life around me too, in a positive way. And everything starts falling into place! Everything starts to make sense! I no long see coinsidences, not in my past, not in my precense. It all makes perfect sense! I get it! The lessons, the failures (there are no such thing as failure btw... it is just doing something that didn't work out, so you do it different. It wasn't meant to be, or something better is coming instead), the push in the right direction, the relationships that didn't work out, the "bad" timing that turnes out to be the perfect timing... It all happened and is happening for a reason. It all has it's purpose! 

When I really started to trust the universe, my heart and soul, and the guidence from guardian angels, angels and fairies and what not ;-) Let's call it all intuition, just to make it simpler ;-) When I started to listed to and act from my intuition, it steared me in the right direction. My life had come to an hault, it was all a bit knot. And then I made some difficult choices, made some big changes. Leaped into it without knowing the outcome, just knowing it would be difficult and hard work. I trusted it. The nudges. The emotions. The pushes. And then the knot started to losen. It all worked itself out best way possible. It was not what I expected. It was better. 

And all those dreams and hopes I'd had for my close future, it came true! In the most unbelievable ways! Beyond any coinsidence or just luck! It was perfectly timed. It is pure. It is freely given. It came when I was ready. And it all happened within 6 months, from when I stepped up, took responsibility for myself and my own life. I made some drastic changes, not knowing where it would lead me. And it lead me here. I have these big things happening in my life, along side the small things, that I have been wishing for. Secretly dreaming about and now receiving. And people around me is starting to ask me how I do that, create my own life, my own "luck". And I guess this is how. The work I am doing on myself. Taking responsibility for changing myself, being better, feeling better, doing better, working hard on myself. And it is all about; just for today! ;-) Here are my "just for todays";

Just for today...

...be happy!

...be patient!

...be kind!

...be open!

...be carefree!

...enjoy life!

...be thankful!

...work hard on myself!

I work on these everyday! It is one of the first things I see when I wake up, and before going to sleep (I have it written in the ceiling above my bed ;-) ).

I remind myself every chance I can. 

The most important thing you can do in this life, is working on yourself and your own life. Take responsibility and change for the better! Live life, not just exist. Prioritize your own happiness, but make it pure! I am not talking about a temporary fix, like buying some thing that makes you happy for some hours or days, but long lasting happiness. The one that starts from within! Like love and appreciation, gratitude and experiencing life and all it's beauty, the kind you cannot buy! That is true happiness! Find out for yourself what true happiness is for you! Where your freedom lies. And work on it!!! It might seem hopeless or impossible, and it might take some time, but I can guarantee that it will be worth it, it works!!! Start creating your own reality! Your own life! What you put energy into is what you allow into your life, wether it is the positive things or the negative things, the wants or the don't wants, the loves or the hates, the happiness or the sadness, the joys or the regrets.... and so on and so on.. So make sure you put all your energy into the good things, and be grateful! Let go of ALL the bad things... all of it, past and present! And even if it feels impossible, as long as you work hard on it, with the good intentions and love to back it up, good things will start happening in your life. Sometimes it is desguised as painful endings and loss, but it is just making way for the better things, the new beginnings! Trust it! Don't fight it! Just let it happen! The universe doesn't do coinsidences ;-) And trust me, when you get there, you will know. And you will understand, everything... 

This does not mean that there is not gonna be more challenges and lessons and pain in my life, in yours. Of course it's going to be more, of everything, but it will always teach you something valuable! It will force you to feel, to wake up, to make new changes, to learn, to live. You are not on this planet, you are not given this life, just to be comfortable or happy all the time, or to be perfect or even create a perfect life. You are here to experience ALL of it! The good and the bad. It all has the same value! And once you realize this, and the fact that this life is temporary and precious and so very small compared to the greatness and infinty of life and love, then you'll stop fighting it and life will feel easier. You start putting love into every piece of your life, and it all makes sense,.. even the bad. You get through the bad, knowing that it is all just temporary. After the bad, comes the good. And there is so much good! So much beauty! Alongside the pain and the suffering... It all just is! Everything just IS! It all serves a purpose. Let it just BE! And let it make you feel alive! 

And of course, it is not for us to change other people. That is up to them, but... There is a but... Some might ask for your guidance, then give it, but be aware of this, that your truths, what workes for you, might not be their truth or what works for them. And it is never for us to make sense of everyone- or anyone elses lives, or fates. Also, know that changing youself, becoming more pure and true to who you really are, becoming better, it creates ripples. It raises your vibration, and this affects the rest of the world, in a good way. So if you want to change the world for the better, don't try to change other people,.. change yourself and the rest will follow. Know that it requires work, good intentions and time. Put love into every situation in your life, and it will come back into every aspect of your life! Love can only create more love! For you, and for the world.

The answers to your truth, and what works for you, lies inside YOU! You can reach into that when ever you want. It just requires you to quiet down, calm down, become still and listen. Open up. Listen to your heart and your soul. Through meditation or just silent focus. Trust your instincts, for it will lead you the right way, to the right decisions. If you have a hard time doing this, ask for help or guidance. Someone to help you start, who shows you how, who guides you. Door openers. It can be meditation, Yoga, Reiki or any other form of alternative treatment for energy work, or someone reading you, one way or another, and I am sure there are other ways too =) Trust your gut feeling and seek out what fits you.

Even if it might sound like a contradiction the 'creating your own life' and 'everything happening as intended from the universal point of view',.. I do think that we can and do influence in which manner our lessons and experiences come. We create our reality, but the lessons we are suppose to learn will come to us in one way or another, and even repeat itself untill we have learned it. I think we choose to some extent in what manner those lessons come. We choose to suffer more than we have to, or we choose to learn through love and happiness, rather than hatred and suffering. Pain is inevitable,.. suffering is optional. Love is always appliable. Hatred is always a choice. We are all given free will, which means we create our own lives. Experiences and lessons will come in any desguise. We can influence in what desguises those are, and how fast we choose to learn and move forward. How many times we get those same lessons. We do create our own lives, every single second... What kind of life do you choose?

PS. Feel free to comment or ask questions here or by mailing me on this address:

lene_velsand@yahoo.no

Love and Light

Lene Whimsical